In recent days … The evil villain has been vanquished.

The prince and princess got married and rode into the castle.

The world watched.

And witnessed this emotionally just landscape unfold.

How can you NOT believe in Happily Ever After?

And before you say ‘but, but, but who am I?’ I am going to shush you (lovingly of course) and ask …

Why not you?

Throughout the years I have seen so many people find a special love. They meet somebody that takes their breath away and it’s pure magic. It’s enchantment. And they’re swept up in the moment, and in that moment they believe anything is possible. And it is …

And then they let ‘the voice’ take over.

I start hearing things like “well he lives far away and I need somebody closer, and it’s not emotionally healthy for me to be in a long-distance relationship.” Or “we come from two different worlds, and she likes going to the opera and I like to go to football matches.” Or (and this is the one that makes me the saddest) “Well we only connected for a very brief time really, it’s time to get realistic and forget all about it. I’m sure it was nothing … I don’t want to be delusional you know.”

Like you can’t see Truth and Love and know your heart in an instant.

I know it doesn’t happen often but sometimes you look at someone and even though it defies all logic, you JUST KNOW. Just because it’s uncommon do you dump your special connection into the bucket of IMPOSSIBLE, wash your hands of it and walk off wondering why you feel a bit less alive inside when you should be congratulating yourself for being so grown-up?

Please stop this!  We are not built to destroy and analyze the beautiful romance in our lives to death.

I started to write this a few days ago and I couldn’t help but catch glimpses of the royal wedding furor in the background even as I was working.  What a wonderful timely example for the message I want to share today!

Kate and William … Where would Kate be today if she has chosen psychology over love? Over the possibility of being with the man of her dreams? What if she had said ‘this is too hard, I could never marry a Prince and I could never be a Princess.  Who am I to think that i can? Surely he’s just passing the time, trying something new, rolling around with the peasants for a while.

Would she now be in what many would call a healthy relationship with someone of her own class, her background and a similar lifestyle to what she grew up with? Many would call that psychologically…healthy.. I have to be honest and say I would call it utter  and a waste of a lifetime – because she would have run away from the man she loves.

And William too, with all his responsibilities, his duties, the life he has been born into … where would he be today if he had married a woman simply out of royal obligation or because she just ticked all the right boxes for his position? But what if she was not a woman he really loved? What kind of life would this young man have ahead of him if he had not chosen love over obligation or convenience? How much richer is his life because he married the woman he loves?

Kate isn’t brave because she married a Prince.

William isn’t brave because he married a ‘commoner’.

They are both to be admired because they had the courage to marry the person they loved instead of being limited by what many would call ‘being realistic’.

If we look at William’s parents who married out of obligation, we can see the sad results of not following your heart.

Yet how much happier and more relaxed is Prince Charles now that he is with the woman he loves? How much happier was Princess Diana before she died, when she was with a man she loved?

This wedding was so popular because deep inside people want the same Happily Ever After even if they poo-pooh it on an everyday basis. It gave everybody that watched it, hope that it can happen for them, because deep down inside people know that this is the truth. This can happen to us … if we stay aware of the special moment and have the courage to follow it through.

So if you see (or have seen) somebody that takes your breath away … and you look at each other across the room … your eyes meet and it’s an unlikely lover that simply floors you … the question is…Will you grab it with both hands? Embrace it with open arms and see how special it is? Or will you shy away and hide behind platitudes and self-talk?

Will You Choose Psychology Over Poetry?

Chrissy

*I feel I have to explain this so that no one ends up scratching their head in confusion. I am not saying that  your psychological health is not important. It’s VERY very important to know what your needs are, what your boundaries are, and what makes you happy and what doesn’t. That is essential. And being psychologically healthy is also good thing nor do I suggest you be otherwise (obviously!)  What I am referring to is when people take shelter behind a twisted version of psychological health, in order to really hide from the wonderful, bigness, BRILLIANT, magnificence of themselves and their lives. What I’m warning against is using psychology as a hiding place and really misusing it by pathologising the mystery of love – and destroying it in the process.

Today I have for you a long quote from Abraham-Hicks, about exes and previous heartbreak. Because no one expresses complicated ideas as well as they do …

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From inside this vortex of creation, you will look back on this contrast
that created it, and you will love it.

Bless you, lover, lover, other lover, other lover, [then said very fast]
other lover, other lover, other lover, other lover, other lover, other
lover!

Bless all you lovers who have left me behind. [Laughter}
Bless all you who cheated and lied. Bless all who stole from me, who robbed me of my virginity. (Just that ONE!)
Bless you, bless each and every one of you for you were the catalyst for
this. And now I am over here, [in the Vortex] I’m blessing you. But when I
am over here [outside the Vortex] I’m damning you.

We say you can’t have it both ways. The only reason you are damning them to
begin with is because they helped you become something you are not letting
yourself be.

If you hadn’t expanded big time, you’d not be suffering in your not keeping up to speed, do you get that?

So you just got to come to the place where you are willing to appreciate all of them. But we would never ask you to find appreciation for those rascals when you are standing outside your Vortex.

That is too much work! Get in your vortex. GET IN YOUR VORTEX!

And to do that, you’ve got to forget about the rascals. You’ve got to find
something else to focus on, something neutral, something non toxic,
something that is not an issue, something that hasn’t been hurting you…

You gotta chill and relax and release and meditate and breathe and walk and ski and surf and bask and sunbathe and relax and sing and love and laugh.

Nurture yourself and eat good stuff and find better and better feeling
thoughts and practice them until they become the norm.

And then EVERYTHING that life has caused you to become must manifest into your experience!

~ Abraham-Hicks

Chrissy says: I love this because it’s so true from the broader perspective. Have you ever thought back to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend and thought ‘Oh… thank goodness they messed it up between us even if it made me cry at the time. If they hadn’t been so awful, I would now be stuck with them! And I like where I am and who is now sitting facing me, SO much more.’

If you have, then you really understand how every lover who disappointed you, even the one that hung around for years and years, brought you to where you are today. And maybe where you are today is at the precipice of looking into the eyes of that BIG ONE (maybe even the T/F.)

Are you going to stay stuck in the angst and energy of the ex-lover whose only role was to bring you (maybe kicking and screaming) to this beautiful time in your life with all its possibilities … and then leave you in peace to enjoy it? Or are you going to look up, smile, and give a Cead Mille Failte (a hundred thousand welcomes) to what your heart really wants?

Are you going to keep up with who you’ve become?

I saw an amazing theatre production a few days ago. While I generally enjoy going to the theatre anyway, what impressed me so much about this particular production was the impeccable attention to detail from EVERYONE involved, from the director, to those playing the lead roles, to the sweet little boy who played a younger brother, to everyone behind the scenes.

The result showed up as a spectacular production that put everyone watching into that lovely hypnoidal state of being completely absorbed in the experience.

That level of impeccable work from so many people working together has to stem from passion. There has to be a real passion to prepare on that involved a level and to do a performance like that over and over again. Dedication has to be involved too of course but without the passion, dedication can get quite dull rather quickly!

The price of the ticket doesn’t even begin to cover the gift we were given as a result of the fire and enthusiasm from that group of people. I sat back and received this gift with the delight of a child!

Of course it got me thinking about how this applies to our daily lives.  My own essence is one of an artist. My passion is creating stories. I write more than I express them physically – I have 5 WIPs at the moment (though my novels do tend to have ‘infinity issues’) – but ‘story’ permeates every level of our lives. Even here at Boost Your Vibe, I not only have mostly artists and seriously creative people as clients (so I’m well aware of the chaos that occurs before the impeccable production!), but the whole coaching process I use involves story.

But I’m going to have to share with you something that is slightly embarrassing.

My own dedication towards what I’m passionate about has not impeccable lately. Every interaction with clients has been fine, but my dealings with my own creative work has not. I was part of an intense  writers conference a couple of months ago and I immersed myself in it so deeply for a week that I forgot about self-care – I think I burnt out a bit. Since then, I’ve not been up to scratch in this area. I don’t dedicate as much time as I used to, towards sitting down with a beautiful blank piece of paper and a pen. I can’t sink into it like I used to. I let my tiredness be an excuse for not letting my passion drive my creative projects towards exquisite expression and most importantly, drive me to feel self-actualised.

While it’s only been a couple of months for me, I have seen people put off what they’re passionate about for years. I have seen that inertia creep up and choke the joy out of someone’s fire – sometimes without the person even realising it. A life goes by, wasted on what isn’t really important and details that are not even remembered … for no good reason. Because of procrastination and settling for numbing comfort instead of dancing into the fullness of one’s self.

So my questions to you today are:

Have you allowed your fire to go out about something that is important to you?

Have you been putting off what gives you supreme joy with one excuse or another?

I’m not talking about just creative work but anything that feels oh so good! when you do it. It can be sports or tinkering with the engine of a car or taking your kids on nature walks … whatever makes you happy.

Have you been putting off the most important things in your life, the things that give your life a deeper meaning?

If you have, what is ONE SMALL STEP you can take in the next 24 hours, to get back into it? Will you make the decision to do it, to find even 10 or 15 minutes even if it’s only to plan your next step?

This last week shook me out of my 6 week sludge. Tonight I am going to watch the new Dr. Who (thank you Steven Moffat, storyteller extraordinaire) then after a juicy chat over coffee with my friend Anne, I have firm plans to sit down with a crisp new notebook and scribble to my heart’s content. Worlds will be built, motivations will be uncovered and my characters will just have to deal with the monsters that show up.

And my heart will feel as big as the world …

Chrissy

What would happen if  … everyone minded their own vibrational* business?

What would happen if … everyone minded their own vibrational business and got involved only when asked or when a mutual interest and joy occured?

What would happen if … everyone minded their own vibrational business and got involved only when asked and never demanded that someone else change in order for them to be happy?

What would happen if … everyone minded their own vibrational business and got involved only when asked and never demanded that someone else change in order for them to be happy and people with ill intent couldn’t find anyone to victimise because other people were in such a state of joy and ease (which are MUCH more powerful emotions than feelings of ill intent) that there simply was no vibrational match between the two, thus ensuring safety?

What kind of world would we live in, if no one demanded that in order to feel better, YOU had to change?

What if everyone took responsibility for their own joy?

Everyday there are millions upon millions of things that go right in this world. Imagine how many more things would go right if we minded our own vibration and stopped demanding others change things before WE got happy.

What kind of world would this be?

Think about it …

Chrissy

*vibrational business = the thoughts we are thinking and where our focus is

The rainbow appears after the rain? … well, not always. I have seen rainbows after feeling the sweetest and purest tiny raindrops suspended in the air so you didn’t know if the breeze held the water … or the water held the breeze. Not rain at all but a refreshing whisper that soothed the spirit. You don’t need a deluge of rain to see a rainbow and you don’t need to suffer to experience joy. It is all love and the rest is just the needless stuff we put in the way.

I wish you all my friends … a Happy St. Patrick’s Day.

Warmest Wishes

Chrissy